If you want to get more dates or even find a girlfriend, you can't just passively wait and hope that eventually this problem takes care of itself. You need to go out and meet women. And this is where most guys start to struggle – they are afraid of approaching women, because they don't know how to talk to them. For this reason, here are some of the most common ways that help you to become better at talking to the women you meet.
The first thing you have to remember though, is to stay away from cheesy pickup lines. They rarely work and if your delivery is off, will most of the times backfire on you. The best approach here is to just go up to a woman and introduce yourself. Of course, you can add your own twist to it but don't start searching for the best pickup lines, because they don't exist.
Now, one thing you hear every time when you want to approach a girl you like is just to be yourself. You might think that this is terrible advice because everyone says this, but if you take a closer look at it, it becomes one of the best tips ever. The reason for this is that when you don't feel confident around women, you aren't actually yourself. Instead, you are a nervous wreck who is consumed by fear and messes up because of it.
Therefore, you need to start to feel secure in your own body first, whenever you are around girls. If you manage to do that, you can actually become yourself – the funny and charming guy (and if you aren't even that, then becoming this guy is your first goal).
If you want the kind of conversations that build attraction then every time you approach, try to make the conversations as fun as possible. Don't start a conversation with her by trying to get something out of it. Instead, always think about ways to make it fun for her. And maybe even more importantly – make it fun for yourself. That's because when you are enjoying yourself, she will "join" you in it. If you are the kind of guy who can stay self-amusing in every situation, people will want to get to know you because you seem like the guy who can bring the fun.
When you talk to someone, always ask open-ended questions. Don't ask only yes or no questions from women, this won't help them to open up. If you ask questions that can make her talk about herself, you can go on from there and expand the topic. If you do this, you will see, that women actually want to talk to you, you just have to give them the opportunity.
By now you know that when you want to get good with women, you still have to put some effort into it. Nothing in this life comes easy, so don't hope that you will get good instantly. But you can do it if you believe in yourself. Just start approaching women and talking to them.